So in some fairly recent conversations I have discovered that most men feel that women do not have the capability to emotionally detach themselves from sex. I can only speak for myself, but I can easily separate the difference from love and lust. Now don't get me wrong, some women only have sex with men they have some sort of a connection with. Most women are able to differ between having sex and developing an emotional connection via physical relations. For me, I enjoy having sex with someone I have an emotional connection with, however that does not mean that after we have sex one time I am head over hills in love. There are several factors that determine whether or not I would consider moving forward with that man. Truth be told, sex can make or break a connection. You could have a great intellectual and physical attraction to someone, but if the sex ends up being horrible, even if it begins with a great deal of passion, the situation will more than likely cease to exist. I know that remains true for me anyway.
That does not go to say that passionate sex will not spark greater feelings and increase desire to look forward with that individual, but making assumptions and generalizations based on ideas of women and our emotional boundaries is wrong. All women are NOT the same. Just like all men are NOT the same. Every man and women looks for certain things in a significant other, if he/she finds that that individual is covering all the bases, quite naturally you wish to continue developing a relationship with that individual. Now of course we will not like everyone that likes us and visa versa, so that is why I feel that communication is the key. Some men don't want to admit that they do not feel the same way so instead they lead that person on, or totally cut that person off leaving questions. I personally prefer someone to be forward with me. Because I will definitely be forward, completely honest, with the man I am seeing at that time. On the flip side, some women are only looking for sex or are looking to connect with any man with hopes that he may be the one, others are looking for the honesty from a man and few are detached until they are sure the man they are seeing is completely interested in being in a relationship as well. Regardless, I can only speak for myself, and I confidently say that this theory that men have regarding women's inability to detach emotions during sex, does not apply to me. But I want to hear from you....
