"I think beauty's overrated. Cause that's something anyone can be. Attraction, now thats something different..." - R Glasper Project
I heard this phrase in the song and immediately it spoke to me. I got it. I understood the difference between beauty and attraction. I knew what attraction felt like. I know its hard to articulate differences between things that you experienced emotionally, that you know to be all to real to you. Your truly at a loss of words. I am in that space here. I want to share with you what this means and how it feels, but there currently is no best way for me to get you to comprehend the difference if you had not experienced it already. But, I will try my best.
I've been fortunate to be both beautiful and attractive to a few men, and I promise you there is a difference between superficial and real love. Beauty and attraction symbolize that to me. Beauty is on the surface, but attraction to another individual is based off organic chemistry that goes past a pretty/handsome face. You can't manufacture that...its natural.
When we focus more on what people look like, we neglect our ability to become more attractive. We don't allow ourselves to open up, and we remain stuck in the space that is not of equal distance between the mind and the heart. An equal space between the mind and heart suggest that we are capable of making decisions with equitable amounts of emotional and rational consideration. If you are stuck totally in your mind in a relationship, thinking only of what he/she looks like, what kind of car he/she drives, what he/she will become, etc., we don't allow ourselves the ability to grow with one another. We don't allow ourselves to become attractive to one another. We keep our minds focused so much on the superficial, that we neglect the ability to establish any true connection. We lose our ability to be rational. We are "stuck on stupid" as the colloquialism expresses. Similarly if we are stuck in the heart, we are too emotional and make decisions based solely on how something feels. This is considered irrational as well.
For me personally, in essence, when someone generally appreciates you, and looks to spend any ounce of free time exploring every part of you, in order to learn more about you, THATS ATTRACTION. When the depths of your conversations take you places you have never been or explored in your life, THATS ATTRACTION. When they can look at you at your weakest or most physically attractive point and still see beauty in you, THATS ATTRACTION. Its deep but that's when you know someone really SEES you for who you are.
I heard this phrase in the song and immediately it spoke to me. I got it. I understood the difference between beauty and attraction. I knew what attraction felt like. I know its hard to articulate differences between things that you experienced emotionally, that you know to be all to real to you. Your truly at a loss of words. I am in that space here. I want to share with you what this means and how it feels, but there currently is no best way for me to get you to comprehend the difference if you had not experienced it already. But, I will try my best.
I've been fortunate to be both beautiful and attractive to a few men, and I promise you there is a difference between superficial and real love. Beauty and attraction symbolize that to me. Beauty is on the surface, but attraction to another individual is based off organic chemistry that goes past a pretty/handsome face. You can't manufacture that...its natural.
When we focus more on what people look like, we neglect our ability to become more attractive. We don't allow ourselves to open up, and we remain stuck in the space that is not of equal distance between the mind and the heart. An equal space between the mind and heart suggest that we are capable of making decisions with equitable amounts of emotional and rational consideration. If you are stuck totally in your mind in a relationship, thinking only of what he/she looks like, what kind of car he/she drives, what he/she will become, etc., we don't allow ourselves the ability to grow with one another. We don't allow ourselves to become attractive to one another. We keep our minds focused so much on the superficial, that we neglect the ability to establish any true connection. We lose our ability to be rational. We are "stuck on stupid" as the colloquialism expresses. Similarly if we are stuck in the heart, we are too emotional and make decisions based solely on how something feels. This is considered irrational as well.
For me personally, in essence, when someone generally appreciates you, and looks to spend any ounce of free time exploring every part of you, in order to learn more about you, THATS ATTRACTION. When the depths of your conversations take you places you have never been or explored in your life, THATS ATTRACTION. When they can look at you at your weakest or most physically attractive point and still see beauty in you, THATS ATTRACTION. Its deep but that's when you know someone really SEES you for who you are.
